Why Christians Shouldn’t Celebrate Muslim Deaths

I’ve been writing a post on a related topic for a few weeks now. It keeps growing and changing, so in the meantime, I’ll share this one, which I’m pretty sure will be short and to the point. Maybe.

Yesterday, more than 700 Muslims were killed in a stampede during their pilgrimage to Mecca. It seems that many people thought these deaths should be celebrated. This baffles me because most of the people who feel this way probably claim to be Christians.

Now, I don’t have a degree in Jesusology, but I can read, and I’m considered fairly intelligent, even by those who don’t agree with everything I say (or write), so I’m going to throw a couple of things out here. Continue reading

25 Things More Offensive Than Saying, “Happy Holidays!”

With more than two weeks until Thanksgiving, I was already seeing the “It’s Merry Christmas, NOT Happy holidays!” memes on Facebook. There are probably hundreds of blog posts written on this subject every year, including several explaining that “holiday” derives from “holy day,” although, to be fair, the meaning and use has changed over centuries. I won’t even go into the whole “Can we wait until after Thanksgiving to even start thinking about Christmas?” thing on this post.

So this popped up on my TimeHop app yesterday, and I reposted it:

Happy Holidays vs Merry Christmas: A list of things you can REALLY be offended about

Then, I posted this as an additional comment. (Well, okay, mostly this. I have edited it just a bit.)

Someone may say “Happy holidays” out of respect [for your unknown-to-them beliefs]. A stranger does not know what holidays you celebrate, and they can’t see your Facebook posts. Just smile, say “Merry Christmas” if you want, and go on with your day. No outrage necessary. If someone else can “take the Christ out” of YOUR Christmas, you have bigger problems than which greeting someone uses. [And, really, it’s a little arrogant of you to assume they care whether Christ is in your Christmas. They probably only care about theirs.]

I just can not understand getting angry and offended because someone offered a sincere greeting. I can’t. Unless you’re wearing a sweater with “Merry Christmas” on it (and please don’t – but Ugly Christmas Sweaters are another post altogether), a complete stranger has no clue what, if any, holidays you celebrate. I have people of many (and no) faiths on my Facebook list. In six years on Facebook, I have NEVER seen one of them complain about someone wishing them Merry Christmas.

So, as I was trying to figure this out yesterday, it occurred to me that maybe people get offended by a simple greeting because they don’t realize that there are other more important things they can be offended by! So I thought I’d help them out. Feel free to share this list with others who enjoy being offended. Continue reading

It’s Not Just You

It's not just you. Go find your tribe.Heard in a group of moms of kids with special needs: I’m so glad I’m not the only one who does that!

Heard in a group of social entrepreneurs: I’ve been trying to figure that out, too!

Heard in a group of homeschooling moms: So my kid isn’t the only one who does that?

We hear it all the time, but I’m not sure it really sinks in for many of us. It just hit me yesterday, after spending a couple of hours with several homeschooling moms, a few of whom I had never met. We have more in common with those around us than we realize. We are not alone. Continue reading

When Is a Joke No Longer Funny?

Yesterday I saw a video on Facebook. It had been shared by two people who are wonderful, loving people, and the title of the video was “Good, clean…funny!” It’s a video that seems to have first been posted online in 2011, but was posted on Facebook two days ago, and has gone viral. (I’m not going to link to it. If you have to see it, you can Google it.)

The video, which runs less than two minutes, is two teen boys pranking a third (their “friend”, according to one site I found) in a community shower using the “never-ending shampoo” prank. (Clean fun? Get it?) And when I first started watching it, it was funny. But then you start to hear distress in the victim’s voice. Then he starts saying, “Help me. Help me,” and it sounds to me like he’s crying. He may not be actually crying, but he is asking for help, and you can see him getting more frantic as the video goes on. Continue reading

Life Is a Highway. You Are Not a Tow Truck.

So, I started thinking about this as a Christian, but I realized that it applies to all aspects of life: health, food, exercise, recycling, environment, parenting, and those are just the subjects that are close to my heart and/or I’m working on. Pick the subjects you’re passionate about that you feel as if no one else cares about. (Tip: They do.)

I know I’m just as bad as everyone else. It’s a human condition. We are super-convinced that everything we know is right, so if someone is doing something differently, they must be doing it wrong.

Self-help is an $11 billion industry. We love to read and hear advice — when we want to. Actually following that advice is another story all together. From my own experience as an advisee and my observations as an advisor, very few of us follow the advice we’re given, even when it’s solicited. It’s pretty obvious that unsolicited advice is going in one ear and out the other.

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Two Sides to Every Story: What Really Happened At the Richmond Homeschool Prom?

I admit it. I read the story about Clare being kicked out of her prom (the original post does contain profanity) — whether it was truly because the dads had complained that she was dressed too provocatively or because some of the women just thought so — and I was outraged.

I’m all about encouraging women and equality for women and ending the “blame the victim” culture in which we are so entrenched.

“You shouldn’t have been dressed like that.”

“You were asking for it.”

“It must have been punishment for your sin.” (That’s a favorite that I just learned about. Apparently church leaders are using that one.) Continue reading

Help Us Help a Local Family #autism

One of the families in my local special-needs support group experienced a job loss in December and we’re trying to raise enough funds to allow the family to stay until the end of the school year so their son with autism will experience less disruption. You can read more on my special-needs blog, and even if you can’t or don’t want to donate, please help by sharing that post.