A Post About Marriage That Has Something For Everyone… To Get Mad About

I rarely post about political or controversial subjects on this blog. (I reserve that stuff for Facebook.) But this whole marriage thing is annoying me. And it has nothing to do with my personal beliefs. I believe that what I believe is true and “the way it should be” but you may believe something different, and frankly, it’s not my place to tell you that what you believe is wrong. Add that to the fact that over the past few years, some of my beliefs have changed. Not necessarily just religious beliefs, but social and political ones as well. Having convictions is good (and necessary, I believe) but we also need to be open to listening to rational discussions from those with whom we disagree. You may not change your mind, but you might accidentally learn something if you talk to someone with a differing opinion.

And now I’m rambling…

You know what irritates me about the marriage argument? It’s not the homosexual marriage debate. I’ve seen all the articles and posts floating around, but honestly, I still believe homosexuality is a sin. BUT, 1) I don’t believe that sin is any worse than any of MY sins, and 2) who am I to say, “I don’t believe in this, so you can’t do it”? I know several homosexual couples who have been together for longer than many of the heterosexual married couples I know. I also know heterosexual couples who have been married for a long time. And many, many who have divorced. And there are same-sex couples who have split up after years together. Guess what? Sex has nothing to do with whether a couple is willing to work out their problems or run for the border. Wait… *Gender* has nothing to do with it. Sex is very important in any marriage, just not the way Rush Limbaugh thinks it is.

Sorry, rambling again….

What bugs me are the heterosexual couples who don’t want to get married, but expect to have all the “rights” of married couples, such as insurance, tax breaks, whatever. If you want to be treated as a married couple, and there is no legal reason for you to not marry (such as there is for our homosexual friends), then why would you not just get married? Oh, I know, “We don’t need a piece of paper to prove we love each other.” Isn’t that sweet? Either you want the world to treat you as married or you don’t. You don’t get to have it both ways. No, a marriage license does not guarantee forever, but it does give insurance companies and the IRS and whatever other bureaucracy you’re dealing with some kind of official documentation that two people are a couple.

Otherwise, what’s to stop roommates from adding each other to their insurance (for example)? Even if they’re only temporary? After all, they share the same address. These bureaucracies are already a mess. Can you imagine how bad they’d be if there was no way to distinguish who could add whom to insurance policies, or file taxes together, or whatever else you’re arguing about? There has to be *something* that differentiates roommates and casual shack-ups from those in a committed romantic relationship. Oh, wait! There is! It’s called marriage! Honestly, I don’t care if you get married or not. But when you choose not to get married, then want the world to change the rules because you choose not to play by them, I just can’t get behind that.

Meanwhile, you’ve got same-sex couples who want to be married, but can’t. So how ’bout this? We make marriage between two consenting adults legal, those who want to get married, do, and everyone else quits whining.