Book Review: Ain’t No Sunshine: Men Reveal the Pain of Heartbreak by Kimberley Johnson & Ann Werner

Amazon summary
What sorrow lurks in the minds of men suffering from a broken heart? Ain’t No Sunshine knows! How do men feel when they lose someone they love? Do they cry? Do they obsess? Do they call psychics? Under the protection of anonymity, thirty-eight men describe in detail how they’ve dealt with the pain of heartbreak. Whether it’s because of divorce, betrayal, death or simply getting dumped, the raw honesty of these men may surprise you. Modern American society so often discourages men from admitting to emotional pain, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. From an early age men are taught to “suck it up.” Women often think men have it easier when it comes to the pain of heartbreak. But is that really the case? Ain’t No Sunshine provides an opportunity to unlock those mysteries in this informal collection of stories. Interviews with therapists, psychics and bartenders are included and provide informative insights into how men react to a broken heart. Love is never easy. Loss of love is always difficult. Here is proof that not only do men struggle, sometimes the struggle is more difficult than it is for women. Ain’t No Sunshine is a rare glimpse into the elusive male psyche.

My review
We all know that one guy who is just too sweet. The one who you just know is going to get his heart broken over and over because he isn’t afraid to show his emotions.

Then there are all those other guys out there who don’t seem to have emotions. Except, apparently, they actually do. Thirty-eight men submitted their stories anonymously, sharing their tales of heartbreak and how they dealt with it. These personal stories are interspersed with professional insights from therapists, psychics, and bartenders. (Because where do men turn with their broken hearts? They can’t talk to their friends.)

As I read, I put the men into various categories in my mind:

The sweet guy who’s skanky cheating girlfriend (or boyfriend on one case) left him. (I just wanted to give those guys a big hug and say, “She’s not worth it. You deserve better.”)

The idiot who is heart-broken because he cheated on his wife and either got caught and lost his wife or broke off with his lover (or she/he broke it off) and is still in mourning. (I just wanted to walk up and smack those guys and tell them what putzes they were.)

The men whose wives/girlfriends had died. Oh my, did I cry.

Women are allowed, even expected and encouraged, to grieve when a relationship ends. We hang out with friends, cry, and tell the whole world what a jerk he is. Men are expected to keep everything inside and never show emotion (unless it involves cars or sports). This book is a great read for women who are wondering if men have feelings. And for men who may not realize that other men actually have feelings, too.

This compilation of anonymous essays comes from Kimberley Johnson and Ann Werner, the same mother-daughter team that edited The Virgin Diaries.

About the book
Title: Ain’t No Sunshine: Men Reveal the Pain of Heartbreak
Authors: compiled and edited by Kimberley Johnson and Ann Werner
Publisher: CreateSpace
Release date: May 18, 2011
Pages: 182
Where I got the book: I received an ebook copy free from the author in exchange for an honest review.
Rating: 5 stars

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