After I published yesterday’s post, my conscience, or sense of fair play, or maybe it’s just my nit-picky perfectionism… something kicked in. Not long ago, I wrote about not judging others from one snapshot of their life – including a facebook status. I don’t take back anything I said and reading those statuses did make me sad for both the parents and the children. But I can’t assume from one comment that a parent doesn’t enjoy their children. I don’t hold any comments against anyone personally, and in fact, I don’t even remember which parents posted those statuses.
If you were one of those parents, you may want to consider how your public comments sound to others and even how your children would feel if they read or heard about them, even if you love spending every moment with them. If you really don’t enjoy your children, I truly feel sorry for you and them. Our children are our greatest gift.
I’ve tried not to “go there” on this blog. “There” being any thing controversial. Sure, I posted about racism, but where’s the controversy there? If you’re racist, you’re an idiot and how many people go around bragging about being an idiot? But I noticed a trend last year on facebook. I ignored it (mostly) and posted on a private group when I couldn’t ignore it anymore. I never made any comments on facebook. Then I decided that my opinion and feelings are just that: mine. That doesn’t mean you have to agree or feel the same.
So this year when school started, so did all the statuses proclaiming to everyone they know that some mothers were thrilled school was finally starting back so they could get rid of their kids. Seriously. That’s when I decided I should be able to share my opinion without worrying about offending anyone. I’m not talking about homeschooling vs. public schooling here. That has absolutely nothing to do with this post.
I also have several friends who were excited when school let out for the summer and were sad when school started again because they had enjoyed their time with their kids over the summer. I *loved* seeing those posts. I don’t care if you send your kids to school. That’s your right to choose and not even the issue here. But why would you even have kids (especially more than one) if you can’t stand to be around them? That’s the impression you’re giving everyone when you announce that the kids are back in school with the same enthusiasm you’d announce that you won the lottery. What message are you sending your kids? I sincerely hope none of the kids mentioned ever saw their mom’s facebook posts, but even if they didn’t, they probably pick up on the feelings. Do you really want your kids feel like they’re an intrusion in your life and you’re happier when you don’t have to be around them?
I like a break as much as anyone. Jeffrey was in Mom’s Morning Out two days a week for three years when he was a toddler/preschooler. It was as much for him to be around as other kids as it was to give me some time on my own. We’re still discussing putting Bennett in a MMO program. Jay frequently takes the boys out for the day on a Saturday and I stay home so I can have a little quiet to get some things done. Or nothing done. But at least it’s quiet.
I’m not a saint or Super-Mom. I’m just a mom like everyone else. And with a *very* busy and opinionated 2-year-old and an 8-year-old with Asperger’s, sometimes I get tired and frustrated and I enjoy some time on my own. In fact, I had to stop in the middle of writing this post to referee. But most of the time, I’m happy to spend time around my kids, because -gasp- I actually *like* my kids.